Not Meant to be Alone

We were not meant to be alone in this world. We have ears to listen and a mouth to talk. Social media can help ensure that nobody suffers from loneliness.

People are not made to be alone. They are inherently social beings. That is my belief, anyway.  I know there are loners and hermits. Often, however, they are that way because their earlier attempts at being social went awry or, in the case of religious loners, it is to enhance their relationship with God. The Unabomber was alone, and look how that turned out!  Tom Hanks was alone in Castaway. But it wasn’t right! He made friends with a volleyball and then risked it all just to be reunited with others.

Being cast away, alone, separate from others. It’s not right. God made us with the ability to communicate so that we could, well, communicate! He gave us ears to listen to what others have to say.  He gave us a mouth with vocal chords so that we could share. He gave us tears  to sympathize. He gave us hands to hold.  Wow, I could keep going on forever with that sappiness, couldn’t I?  

Social media has obviously had a huge impact on how people communicate.  People who were otherwise social now are more social or perhaps social in different ways and with more people. I think the bigger change, however, is that some people who were otherwise reclusive, or at least less social, now have the ability to communicate with others in low-risk ways. I think there are some people active in social media who would not have thrived as well in the pre-Web 2.0 world.

I think of the guys at one party I went to in college who were watching Monty Python’s Holy Grail in the living room, reciting each line, singing each song. When the movie was shut off halfway through, they looked up, blinking, not quite sure how to interact with others in the room.  I think in today’s Web 2.0 world they’d be chatting it up with like-minded Holy Grailians, making plans for a tweetup in NYC to watch Spamalot on Broadway.

More importantly, there are people who really have led miserable lives who can now find others who will talk to them and help. People who don’t know where else to go with their problems now find listening ears (provided they search … some on Twitter won’t follow you back unless you have a blue-and-white ‘verified’ mark on your profile pic). People who might find it hard to converse face-t0-face might actually experience what social interaction is all about and, perhaps, find ways of translating that into their real lives.

I think there are fascinating studies to be conducted, if they’ve not already been done, to see what social media’s affect on rates of reclusivity.  There are many human conditions that impact quality of life, and I think that social media can help with one of them: being alone. We were not meant to be alone, and now there are more ways to ensure that we can move out of that condition and into a full life complete with social interaction.

Author: Robin

Communications professional with more than 25 years' expertise in PR, crisis communications, social media, community relations, marketing communications and more!

3 thoughts on “Not Meant to be Alone”

  1. I would love to see a study on reclusivity. Great point. I know the Internet has helped a friend’s autistic. He has been able to have friends, and talk with others through written communication. I’ll stay tuned.

  2. You are correct about not being made to be alone. God decided that was a bad idea already in Genesis. My question is does social media limit actual contact. If someone sees my status and my pictures they feel that we have caught up with one another and then don’t bother calling or visiting. And doesn’t it limit us from discovering the deeper hurts we would never post.

  3. It’s a good question, Deb. I agree that the most essential relationship is with God, and that no other on earth can fill the void He does. I also think God intended us to have meaningful relationships with others and I agree Social Media doesn’t fill that void. It’s a good start, though.

    I often do tell people that to be successful in social media (i.e., that social media “works” for you and whatever you use if for), you first have to be social. If it’s just a way for you to lurk and check out others or to blast out messages about yourself (to feed your ego or to sell your product), then it won’t help you achieve the benefits of true community or true interpersonal relationships.

    When I’ve blogged in the past, the best responses I’ve received from readers has come when I’ve not held back on what I’m feeling or experiencing. The more you reveal, the more others respond and interact.

    There are things that I probably wouldn’t post online. Mostly because I’ve not yet achieved that level of courage! If I did, however, I’m sure the responses would be supportive and perhaps help others too. I will save those thoughts for hanging out with Steve in his man-cave!

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